Most Swimwatch posts are written by David Wright. However, we occasionally get suggested articles from “outside”. Published below is one such article written by Jane Copland. It is longer than a normal Swimwatch post – more than made up for by the importance of its subject and the quality of its writing.

I don’t know who I would have been otherwise. I was never a happy-go-lucky person, but I wasn’t this.

Nurture versus nature isn’t a conflict. It’s a recipe. Here’s mine:

I was eighteen years old, and I had accepted my life to date as normal. I had never experienced a life that didn’t begin with a self-administered pep-talk at six a.m. every day, reminding myself that no matter what they did to me, I mustn’t respond. I mustn’t even make a sour face, I mustn’t even acknowledge the barb, whether it be a water polo ball thrown at my head, a punch in the stomach, a story of my terrible behaviour or kick to the face. I didn’t have a happy childhood. I had a troubled youth. For most of my adolescence and almost all of my teens, my daily life revolved around keeping myself safe and navigating dreadful aggression, armoured from six in the morning until roughly the same time at night with a numb defiance to keep myself out of trouble, a constant watch kept over my shoulder. I come from a loving home. My parents are still two of my best friends. But my family and I were heavily bullied during my life as a competitive swimmer, and only twenty years later have I really begun to understand what damage that did.

I have written about my experiences in swimming before, in two national newspapers. In the Independent, I wrote about the bizarre and troubling experience of having men become aggressive when faced with a faster woman swimmer (or runner), and in New Zealand’s Newsroom, I wrote about growing up an outcast in that country’s swimming community. These two unfortunate circumstances of my youth came to a head in Napier, a town to which my family moved in 1998. I trained in public pools and public lanes, and I was a fast female teenager. I was also an outcast who trained alone, which resulted in years of abuse from parents and administrators from the Aquahawks swim team. We shared the Onekawa (now Napier) Aquatic Centre, but some of us shared less willingly than others. The pool’s management, the local swimming administration and by proxy the Napier City Council, were complicit and responsible for allowing this abuse to bloom.

I’m telling this story again because its consequences evolve and grow with me, and I have only in the past year begun to really understand how the unfortunate origin story of mine is a lot bigger than me and a few horrible years in a horrible town in New Zealand.

Recounting the tales of what was done to me gets old, but in short, I was physically and psychologically tormented for years, routinely lied about, and taunted with physical jibes like being kicked underwater by other swimmers’ parents, joining my lane to get a heel dug into my ribs. They threatened our ability to drive to school and to swimming, made false reports to the police about our property, tried to prevent me from competing, and finally told a bald-faced lie to the useful idiots in charge of the pool in order to have me kicked out of the facility entirely. By this point, I was a national champion and record holder, and widely known as scum, a whore, a mealy-mouthed lout. And the strangest part of all this is that I didn’t really know it was abnormal. I knew it was wrong, but it was also normal. Normal and wrong can coexist if you know no other way of living.

After four years, they told the pool management that I had sworn at a child. Apparently, prodding me like a stubborn cow and getting no explosive retort had grown old, so they just made up a story. Told to leave and not come back, I obliged mid-training session, without saying anything. I remember being next to mute, unable to speak. We drove out of Napier to the Clive War Memorial Pool, a terrible place whose water poisoned my respiratory system until I left for the United States months later, and I continued the session that had been interrupted, crying so hard underwater that I threw up. I finished the training. I said nothing. I moved to America and tried to forget about it, but it turns out that abused fifteen year olds don’t grow up. They sit in the heads of their hosts, watching the joy and the wins and the better days, watching the passing of better years, acknowledging that while their hosts have moved on, they have been left behind. They are waiting for the moment when it comes crashing back down, and then they will make themselves known again.

When someone enters a lane I’m swimming in, I have to patiently and deliberately remind myself that they are not there to hurt me. They are not offended by my presence; they have nothing against me. They do not viscerally hate me. They will not assault me, nor will they invent a story about something I have done in order to have me kicked out. They are normal people, eleven thousand miles away from where I was abused, arriving at the pool for a swim. Most of them are. I tell myself, seeing legs standing in the water as I swim up to the wall. Most people are good people. Most people won’t hurt you. I repeat this. I am usually right.

I saw a therapist in the summer of 2014 whose only message to me was that nobody would ever hurt me in a pool again, and although I still find it a useful refrain most of the time, her simplistic analysis has, on occasion, been wrong. Unfortunately, she was proven wrong the very next morning, when I took myself to the only local lap pool at my disposal: an awkward, badly-lit 17m bathtub at my neighbourhood’s only gym, attached to a golf club. I never liked it, but I found that lugging my heavily-pregnant body to the club at about ten in the morning made for a quiet workout. The morning after my second therapy appointment, this did not transpire. Within a few minutes of starting my swim, a man joined my lane. He was older: sixty or more. I don’t know if he noticed that I was pregnant (it was hard to miss) but he proceeded to swim down the centre of our lane in a wild, violent backstroke, crashing into me. I stood up, scared and angry. He stood up too.

            ‘What do you think you’re doing, sprinting up and down!’ he shouted at me, advancing. Adamantly, he loudly laboured the point that I was in the wrong, swimming “too fast” and ruining his right to thrash wildly and prevent anyone else from using “his” lane. I left the pool, terrified for my pregnancy and staring down the barrel of a resurgence of trauma, ironically exacerbated by having been told that my fears were in the past and “all in my head” twenty-four hours earlier.

I reported the incident to the gym, who did nothing about it. I did, however, learn that the man was a storied golfer, the likes of which the club preferred not to piss off. This was horribly familiar to me, too. The people who’d abused me in Hawke’s Bay were “important” as well. Teachers, businessmen, respected members of the swimming community.

After that encounter, I swam less and less, until 2020 finally provided an excuse as to why I never swam. It wasn’t because I was afraid. Not because the very idea of taking up space in a public pool set my jaw into a clench and made my heart flutter high and hot in my chest, lungs tight. All the pools are closed, I’d lament. Bloody COVID. And when they started to reopen, I had the luxury of living in Reading, whose council had systematically closed all their public pools on account of the disrepair that they, by way of underfunding, had caused. Well, I would say, there is nowhere to swim now, and I’ve cancelled my membership at the golf club. Instead, I continued an athletic pursuit cultivated after I retired from competitive swimming: I ran. As the winter of 2020 approached, I even bought a treadmill of my own, my new gym having not survived the pandemic. Running outside, I came across three people in seven years who claimed I was out of place, running “too fast” or otherwise in the way. But I do run quite fast, and I run every day, so I could put three people in seven years down to a statistical certainty that at some point, you will come across arseholes. Those were my running arseholes, but they weren’t endemic. Right?

In the autumn of 2021, my family moved from Reading to Oxford.

My son had approached multiple breakthroughs in his quest to learn to swim, thwarted every time by COVID shutdowns. Stoically, we made our way to the nearest swimming lesson providers: a former Virgin Active and current Nuffield Health in North Oxford, boasting an indoor 25m and an outdoor 20m pool, as well as world-class tennis facilities and a gym. I enrolled my son in lessons, and during his second session, I took my ageing swimming equipment with me and swam in the public lane beside him. I did it the next week too, and a woman joined me and the several other people who were sharing the space. My refrain had been proving true: the pool was fairly busy, but we were sharing the water amicably, up until that point.

She was nondescript, but they all are: the people who do these things aren’t identifiable by the way they look. She was wearing a blue swimsuit and no cap, long dark hair held in a ponytail. She was in her forties. They all are, and they all aren’t. You can’t tell. Age, gender, apparel: it could be anyone. Men are more easily offended that a woman is simply faster than they are, but vicious troublemaking knows no mould. She was standing at the end of the length as I approached. I went to tumble-turn, only to find her body quite literally above me in the water, scratching and kicking. She had waited until my feet hit the wall to push off on top of me. I was startled and worried, but I put it down to an accident. We all screw up. A teammate of mine in America once forgot which side of the lane she was meant to be on and we collided head-on at best-effort pace. Shit happens. I believed this for two or three minutes, until she did it again.

I surfaced into her, her body kicking and breaststroking quite literally above mine. Astonished and now angry that she was clearly doing it on purpose, I stood up in the water. She began yelling immediately, accusing me of being an aggressive bully. My mind was absolutely screaming, how is this fucking happening?! How is this happening again! All I did was swim! I tried to tell her, what she did was dangerous and a violation of pool etiquette: you simply do not deliberately wait at the wall until a faster swimmer is turning and push off on top of them. It is dangerous. And my brain, hell-bent on sense and justice, also understands that reasonable people know this. My brain knows that, yet again, I am not faced with reasonable people. My brain teters on the edge of a long-held-off short circuit.

She bellowed, ‘Oh, I’m slow, am I?’ and told me I knew nothing about etiquette at ‘that pool’, as if a gym in North Oxford exists in a different realm than every other public pool on earth. She repeated that I was aggressive and a bully. Wading to the side, she marched around to a lifeguard to complain, arms waving and fingers pointing at me, a former national champion and record holder, NCAA Division 1 championship representative, who apparently knew nothing about lane swimming. The lifeguard approached, a scene that plunges me back into the horror of being fifteen and knowing that Mrs. Whoever has told another lie about me, and I am about to face another kicking. The lifeguard began to admonish me. Trying to stay calm, I told him what had actually gone on, and invited him to check the pool’s CCTV, a tool that 2001-me never had. I am still a member of the gym and welcome in the pool, so I assume that he took me up on my offer.

You get into your nice car. You drive home to your nice house. You tell your husband, whom you love and who loves you, this happened to me. Again. He is hurt on your behalf. He believes you. Somebody believes you, even without CCTV evidence. You go upstairs. You wash your face. I am glaring at myself in a bathroom mirror, transported back to a locker room in Napier in 2001. My ribs hurt, even though no one kicked me. My brain is on fire again, twenty years later.

During my teenage years, an interaction like that would have either been escalated to deal some punishment to me, or would have turned physically abusive. It depended: men were more likely to resort to physical intimidation like kicking and shoving underwater, while women sought official sanction. I still have a couple of scars on my hands from being shoved into the plastic Onekawa lane ropes by men while I was training. The fifteen year old in my head sat behind my eyes as I drove home unscathed, but there is no telling her that the punch isn’t still to come. She doesn’t listen.

I slept for no more than two hours that night. The next day, I was all but manic. My energy knew no bounds. I was not hungry. I ran twelve kilometres, fast. I lifted heavy weights. I stared at the wall. I was completely calm and absolutely out of control. I walked to pick my son up from school, light as a feather. I could have walked all the way from Oxford to London. I wrote to Nuffield Health’s senior management. I wrote the email I wished I could have written over and over again for a fifteen year old who never got a chance to say, she’s lying.

I worried for a week that she would be back the next time I swam, and that she would:

• Bring a husband to physically hurt me
• Bring a friend to provoke me
• Send her daughter as tribute to “get in the way”, and then claim that I was bullying a child (this happened to me multiple times in Hawke’s Bay, with the parent smugly watching on, waiting for the cattle-prod to do its work)
• Shout at me
• Worst of all, because no one has ever done it and I wouldn’t know how to handle it, apologise

I know the woman in the blue swimsuit doesn’t matter.

I know she’s nothing. I know people like that. They do it to everyone. That’s their thing.

But that night, and the next day, she was everyone who had come before her. The weight of my fears being realised on day two of being able to swim again was the bricks tumbling out of the carefully constructed mental net that I didn’t realise had been suspected above my head for years.

Childhood trauma isn’t just wrong because it hurts a child; it’s wrong because inevitably, it is carried as a static malignancy into adulthood. It isn’t just the act of harming a young person that is reprehensible. It’s the harm caused in decades to come. I once relayed this story in a comment online, only to have someone who claimed to have known me in the past reply, telling me she “would have sympathy for me” but it was “a decade ago” and I should have gotten over it. The ignorance of such a statement highlights why abusers and bullies are allowed to continue: their actions are seen as a waning harm that dissolves over time. In actual fact, childhood abuse is a scratched CD which, when played, will glitch and hop back to the memory of violence.

I sought out therapy from someone who wouldn’t tell me it was all in my head, someone who knew that people like that do indeed exist, and who would provide me with skills to handle them. My therapist, Alex, is an accomplished swimmer herself, who specialises in helping people navigate past trauma in their current lives. The validation of having someone say, I have experienced this too, it is not your fault nor in your imagination was empowering, let alone the techniques she shared for dealing with it when, not if, it happens again.

I kept swimming. I kept going to the pool during my son’s lessons. I stayed away from the woman in the blue swimsuit. I noticed that she couldn’t meet my gaze when I looked at her, wondering how a person operates after pitching a tantrum of that variety. I found myself annoyed that she wouldn’t even look at me after her initial blazing aggression. In my head, indignancy was peaking through again: how dare you, I thought. How dare you cause me to be blindsided by the bare-knuckled punch of anguish I had buried under years of avoiding swimming pools? How dare you do that, and then retreat like a badly-bred cockerpoo who yapped at a German Shepherd, then fled? How dare you have cost me a night’s sleep and triggered a day of wired mania, and then not even be able to look at me? It’s nothing to you. I’m just another person you’ve shouted at. How dare you.

In time, I met other good swimmers at the Nuffield pool, and they told me the same story. An American man, swimming outside under the lights in the midwinter, laughed when I mentioned how busy it got inside.

‘And if you dare go in there,’ he said, ‘You’ll get accused of swimming too fast and being a bully!’

I almost choked on my own validation. You won’t believe this, I said, but he believed me.

The others, met weeks and months later, said it too. That’s what it can be like.

‘I find this place to be like a bad boyfriend, but I can’t quit him,’ another faster woman swimmer told me. ‘It’s the outdoor pool in the sun. I just keep coming back.’

I took solace from them, but perhaps not in the way you’d expect. I took solace not in their experience, but in their reaction. They didn’t care. They didn’t mind if someone stomped off to a lifeguard, entitlement in hand, complaining. They knew themselves, and despite being much faster than the average duck, it was water off their backs. I don’t find it coincidental that two of the three people who told me these things were American. America has more than its fair share of issues, but discomfort with other people’s pursuit of excellence has never been a bugbear of their national psyche.

From their nonchalance, I realised how outwardly absurd my wired, manic reaction was. But I also understand my reaction much better than I ever have before. The woman in the blue swimsuit isn’t the one who upsets me. Instead, I am still haunted by a child who never left Hawke’s Bay. Someone who’s still crying in a car park.

I assume that, as hard as I work, I might never be totally cured. I left it too long. If I had known what was rotting in my mind, I may have been able to work on myself in my early-twenties and make some progress. As it stands, I am almost forty and this is who I am. What I can do is understand myself, much better than a twenty-three year old ever could have, and along with the tools taught to me in therapy, that can buy me some peace. Even if I can’t roll back years of brutal high-wire acts in which I handled other people’s grenades daily and only managed to singe my eyebrows, I can reason my way out of these situations when they arise in my adult life. I can control my breathing and lower my heart rate. I can speak in a calm alto, not shrieking my vowels or harshing my Rs, keeping my lungs in my chest and out of my throat. I can hold my ground and my nerve at the same time: something I have never before been able to achieve. I can acknowledge that other people’s poison is not mine to swallow.

And maybe, toxically, subversively, I can use the waste product to my advantage. If you find me on the start line of a race, tell me I’m a bully, that I don’t belong. Find the nerve reason and experience is yet to cover. Scratch it.

See how high I can still jump.

On Saturday, Swimming New Zealand (SNZ) sent out our instructions on how the National Championships will be run next week. I am not going to reprint the 1785 words but let me congratulate the authors, Dale Johnson and Chloe Francis, on a job well done. You see most of us do not mind what the rules are. Just clearly explain to us what you expect, how the meet is going to work, and we will adjust to your rules. We are good at that. In fact, it is a vital part of being an international coach or swimmer.

I’ve been fortunate enough to travel the world attending swimming or athletic events. I’ve been with swimmers to Olympic Games, World Championships, Commonwealth Games, Pan Pacific Games, Oceania Championships, 7 Mare Nostrum series, 87 World Cup events and 60 years of National Championships in New Zealand, Australia, the Virgin Islands, Mexico, Jamaica, Great Britain, Scotland, England, Saudi Arabia and the United States. And everywhere is different. That’s not a problem. Top sport requires the flexibility to adapt. Just make sure we know the rules.    

In 60 years of getting information from SNZ, this email is probably the best example I’ve seen of being told how the week is going to work. It is clear, precise and to the point. Of course, the Clown in Tawa doesn’t think so. After he poured a cup of coffee over my pale blue computer I found his post difficult to read and impossible to understand.

The email from Dale and Chloe at SNZ is certainly better written and easier to follow. If the traffic light stays red there will be separate male and female pods. If the light goes to orange the genders will be combined and we will have, effectively, a “normal” swim meet. Personally, I prefer the two pod, red light plan. I like the idea of shorter sessions. However, if we go to orange, Dale and Chloe have told us what that will mean.

I think it’s hilarious that the Tawa Clown is upset male and female swimmers won’t be able to socialise on the pool deck. The last thing I’d recommend is for a swimmer to use a competition session at the National Championships as an opportunity to chat up the local talent. In fact, the East Germans did a bit of work on that very subject. They discovered male performances can be quite severely affected by too much female contact before a race. It seems the old boxing rule has some scientific support. Perhaps Dale and Chloe are onto a good thing.  

In addition the SNZ email covers what to do if anyone detects Covid during the meet, the date and time of the Zoom Team Manager’s meeting, how spectators will be affected by the colour of the traffic light, which entrance, exit and waiting areas to use, the timeline for heats and finals, the space available for warming down, where results will be posted, how heats and finals will be marshalled, where seating will be available and how relays, DQs, medal presentations and protests will be organised.

In other words, all we need to know is in one email, in one place, clearly written and understood. Thank you, Dale and Chloe, for your clear instructions on how the week is going to work. And thank-you SNZ for a job well done.  

Craig Lord’s Swim-Vortex Facebook page tells me that FINA has sent the IOC a Report asking for the Olympic Games swimming events to be held in a 25m pool. FINA are not pushing for the change to happen next week. They are happy for Paris 2024, Los Angeles 2028 and Brisbane 2032 to continue being held in a 50m pool. But after that, they say, the Olympic Games’ swimming events should change to 25m pools.

What a brilliant idea.

But wait, there is more. FINA have also recommended that the current army of officials who start, time-keep and judge swimming competitions be replaced by robots and cameras.

What another brilliant idea.

Let’s look at each of the recommendations. First the change to 25m. That is good, mainly because it would add to the gladiatorial nature of the competition. Instead of spectators at the “turn” end of a 50m pool having no idea who is winning at the “finish” end, spectators everywhere, in a 25m pool stadium, can see all the action. And events seem to happen much more quickly in the more intimate 25m setting. It offers the exciting prospect of spectators turning up to see the show. In a 50m pool that is a distant prospect.

When FINA first introduced the 25m World Cup circuit, some of the events were fantastic. Malmo, in Sweden, led the way. At the end of each final the stadium was plunged into darkness. And a spotlight picked out the winner, who would swim backdown the pool in a circle of light. It was spinetingling stuff. Imagine what lighting could do at an Olympic Games in a 25m pool. Before the finals introducing the swimmers could be spotlighted. After each final winning lanes could be illuminated in gold, silver and bronze. The possibilities are endless.

At the World Cup in Sydney the organisers floated a Toyota car on an island built at the far end of the 50m pool. The car was a prize for a world record swim. In the 100m butterfly, Michael Klim duly obliged and swam out to the island to lean on his new Toyota. The crowd went wild. It was just the sort of thing good sport thrives on. The next day Jane and I were flying back to New Zealand. As we walked through Sydney airport Jane saw a KLM 747. She said, “Look, Michael Klim even has his own airline”.  

Some rules might need to be changed for 25m Olympic swimming. For example, to avoid races becoming a test of underwater kicking the distance allowed after each turn may need to be reduced to 10m. But all of that is easy to accommodate.

Swimming has always bemoaned the fact it is not a “spectator” sport. Swimming drug addicts like me love it. Whether races are in a 25m pool, or Lake Taupo, I’d happily turn up to watch. But if swimming wants to attract the average sport spectator, then a 25m pool is the place to do it. There is a very good reason the International Swimming League chose to introduce their new competition using 25m pools. They make for a more exciting sport. The IOC would do well to follow their lead.

Second the change to robots and cameras. How many times have you heard and read swimming officials complain about the mass of people they need to recruit to run a swim meet? Every swim meet I’ve ever been to is held up at the start by announcements that, “three more timekeepers are needed before we can start”. To staff a meet according to the rules takes an army of about 50 officials. It is ridiculous. The answer? Do away with officials altogether.

Timekeeping would be the easiest thing in the world to automate. After all you never see timekeepers standing at the end of a Formula 1 race or floating on a barge at the end of an America’s Cup final. Timing in these sports has been automated for years. Swimming could easily do the same. And as for judging, above and below the water video cameras could do a far better job of judging legal strokes and turns than a human being 20m away from the scene of the crime. Even a starter could be made redundant by automation. Attention could and should focus on the competitors, not the parade of officials. And consider this, Swimming New Zealand could save a fortune in buying 100 official t-shirts for every meet.

Well done FINA. You have screwed up many things in the pastrug. Drugs and Putin and money security have not been your proudest moments. But 25m pools and automation are two good ones. Let’s go.